What defines sexiness?

Happy Thursday Everyone!


We’re kicking off today’s post with the topic of sexiness. As we all know, the women of today are constantly bombarded with images in magazines and on TV of skinny models with gorgeous hair and airbrushed bodies. We’ve been conditioned to think that sexiness is defined by a size 0 waist, big breasts, thighs that don’t touch, and arms like toothpicks. As a woman who once struggled with my body image, I can tell you that feeling out of shape and unhappy with your body can be a painfully debilitating.

In my opinion, a woman’s sexiness is based on her level of confidence in herself. Confidence is about loving and accepting yourself for who you are, and to that end – having the strength to push yourself to be the best you can be and being happy with the results. No matter what people say about you, no matter what negative thoughts cross your mind, no matter what obstacles get in your way – confidence in yourself and your abilities is what moves your forward in life.

So let me ask you, do you feel sexy in your own skin? If not, how come? Part of the frustration and fear we encounter when we set out to lose weight or to get in better shape stems from the fact that we’re mentally held hostage by thoughts like, “I’m too weak to work out. I’m too slow to run. I’m too tired. I’m too busy.” All of these thoughts are just excuses. Excuses are the bane of progress and success. Why? Because they cripple people’s ability to push themselves to their fullest potential.

If you don’t feel sexy in your own skin, what are you doing about it? Are you still on the couch watching How I Met Your Mother, eating Chili Fritos, and feeling sorry for yourself? Are you spending too much time helping other people and not making time for yourself?Are you too tired? Whatever your excuse(s) are my challenge to you is to ask yourself:

1. How much longer am I going to make excuses for my unhappiness with myself?

2. Once I’ve decided I’m going to stop making excuses, what am I going to do? What kind of action am I going to take?


I should mention that this process doesn’t have to be done alone. Surround yourself with people who support and motivate you. Motivation is the most critical element of getting in shape and staying in shape. If you lose motivation and the burning desire to achieve those weight-loss and fitness goals, then you’ll be back to where you started – discouraged and frustrated.

So, take some time to be honest with yourself for once. Honest about how you feel, about what your goals are, and about how you’re going to achieve them. I for one can say that joining a bootcamp like ours is a great action plan. I say that not just because I’m an instructor, but because studies have shown that people in general are more successful when they have a team to train with – a team that supports and motivates them when they feel like quitting, when they feel like that can’t run that extra mile, or they can’t do that last set of lunges. It’s important to have a coach that is desires to help you every step of the way and to have teammates that share similar goals as you. People rarely succeed without the help of others along the way.

Rudyard Kipling explained it best in The Law of the Jungle, “The strength of the pack is in the wolf, and the strength of the wolf in is in the pack.” I encourage you to channel your inner she-wolf, or your inner tigress, and find a pack that can give you strength and that you can contribute your strengths to.


Until next time,

Coach Colleen